6 Self-Care Changes You Can Make Right Now Without Spending a Dime

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I want to extend a massive shoutout to my guest blogger for this post-Emma Grace Brown. You can check her out at her site https://emmagracebrown.com/.

Search for #selfcare on social media, and you’re going to see thousands of photos of people on lux vacations and indulging in pricey spa days. All of those images can make self-care feel out of your reach. The way you take care of yourself each day can do more for your mental health than any amount of money spent.

Thkeya Life Inspiration is filled with practical tips for living your best life, and to supplement those tips, we offer a few extra budget savvy suggestions to help you change your habits for the better.

Focus on Simple Stress-Relieving Improvements

Taking vacations and spending time at the spa are both incredibly effective ways to reduce tension in your life. But you can’t necessarily hit the spa or take a vacay every single day, or even once or twice a month. So it would be best if you had more practical approaches to managing stress. Techniques that you can incorporate into your routine without spending a small fortune.

Like Clearing Negative Energy Out of Your Home

Okay, so how can you release tension without putting a dent in your budget? Well, one way is to clean and declutter your home. It is that simple! You see, when you live with clutter, dust, and disorganization, you’re also living with residual stress and bad energy you may not notice outright. But if you and your family have been complaining and feeling agitated for no good reason, these bad energy sources could be the culprits. Clear them out to boost your mood.

Or Setting Up a Little Relaxation Space Just for You

Once your home is tidy and clean, you can add more self-care by dedicating a room or corner to pure relaxation. Think about what helps you unwind, and then center this soothing space around that activity. Maybe this means creating a simple meditation corner or a cozy reading nook where you can escape with your favorite books. Whatever makes you happy! As long as you keep these spaces simple, it would be best if you didn’t have to spend a ton of extra money.

You Should Set Boundaries to Reduce Stress

Boundaries are important! They are so crucial that you should establish clear boundaries in all areas of your life. It could mean letting coworkers know that your time is off-limits or telling family members that specific topics aren’t up for discussion. Set your boundaries, and then stick with them but don’t be afraid to reassess them after significant life changes. You may need to pull back on some limitations, or you may need new ones.

Speaking of Boundaries, You Should Also Learn to Say “No”

What’s the simplest way to create the boundaries you need? Saying “no” more often is going to be the most effective strategy. Just like setting boundaries, learning to say “no” to family, friends, coworkers, and supervisors can cause anxiety at first. But once you practice this essential self-care habit, you’ll feel like a new person! You’ll be protecting your energy and, in turn, learning to value your time and yourself. Understanding this can make such a difference.

But Don’t Forget About Basic Self-Care Your Body Needs

It would be best if you also had self-care to preserve your physical health. Self-care can be broken down into specific areas: physical, intellectual, professional, financial, etc. Take better care of each of these spokes in the wheels of your own life, and you are bound to improve your quality of life. And you don’t have to spend a cent.

Self-care is a non-negotiable if you want to live your best life. But don’t think self-care has to be expensive to be useful! The best self-care changes are the ones that don’t cost a thing. Those are the changes that will improve your everyday routines and help you relieve stress.

Living your best life should be a lifestyle change! If you think so too or want to learn more, get inspired by reading past blog posts from Thkeya Life Inspiration.

Quarantine Life Part 1: Relationships

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I know it’s been a while since I’ve posted here. It’s been a lot trying to get through the current stay at home order. I’ve observed something about relationships during this quarantine life. I’m going to write a three-part series, including this post about my direct and indirect experiences that the quarantine life has impacted. I was in a relationship before this coronavirus changed our lives drastically. Once the stay at home order started my relationship eventually changed. I let him stay with me (in hindsight, that was a bad idea)for three weeks. Honestly, I learned an infinite amount about myself into two categories, what I did well and what needs improvement. I realized within those three weeks how incompatible we were. He was happy as he got everything he wanted, but my needs not so much.

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There were red flags that kept coming up that I tried to look past. Let’s say something came up that I couldn’t ignore anymore. With the help of the quarantine, it allowed us to speed things up and notice that we weren’t right for each other. No love lost as you live and learn. The pro to this situation is that it saved me heartache later on. I discovered this information in less than two months as opposed to four/five months down the line. That sounds like a blessing to me. I’ve never lived with a man before, so that was a significant growing pain for me. I have to be with someone I’m compatible with, as it will be much easier to compromise within a relationship. When you’re with someone, you have a deep connection with compromising will come naturally. Unfortunately, my newfound relationship was short lived. I gained knowledge that now I know the changes I’m making are in the right direction. Now I need to find someone I’m more connected with, and that will be my last relationship (God willing!).

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I notice that relationships are taking a toll during this time as well. I heard my neighbors arguing across the hall the other week. I never want to be in a relationship like that. The way the woman was yelling at her boyfriend, I thought I was in trouble. Sorry not sorry, but if someone can yell at you, then it’s time to go. I always believed that if someone could yell, then they can raise their hand to you. I don’t have time for either situation, so I’m out, no, thank you. I can see why domestic violence is going up if this is the situation folks are experiencing. I know a few people who’s relationships have ended due to the quarantine. I guess their relationship couldn’t handle the proximity to each other. That’s something I don’t understand either. If you’re with someone you can’t stand, then how did the relationship occur? The new criteria to add to your dating questionnaire is, can you be quarantine with this person? If the answer is no, then keep it moving. You’re going to be spending massive amounts of time with this person, so you should want to be around them.

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Stop getting into relationships with people you only spent limited amount of time getting to know. I have a few coworkers who were complaining about not being back at work. I asked them why, and the response was they couldn’t stand their spouse. Again I’m confused as to why a person would marry someone they don’t like. The quarantine life is going to show different aspects of a relationship. Either it’s stable, and this situation will only make things healthier, or the relationship will be coming apart at the seams. Of course, this time will be difficult on everyone, and it’s essential to be with someone who will help you through this event. I suffer from anxiety, and while I was still in my relationship, it took a beating. It was something about that relationship that was bothering my spirit. God has a way of telling us things if we would only listen. It took me going through that rough patch to realize it was time to move on. Better late than never as it could’ve been worst.

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Being in the home 24/7 is an emotional blow to anyone, particularly those who suffer from mental health issues. My anxiety was through the roof for the first few weeks of the stay at home order. I would have panic attacks, and I had trouble sleeping. What has been a tremendous help to me is exercising, yoga, meditation, reading, writing, virtual happy hours, and my all-time favorite therapy. There are so many other things you could be doing during this time. I’m sure there is something you want to do that you’ve been putting off. Now is the perfect time as any to focus on those goals that have been on the back burner. The bright side of this is that it will give you something else to discuss. Talking about the same thing over and over becomes tedious, especially during this time. Bringing something else to the table will break up the monotony. Let’s try something different since you don’t have anything better to do. You mind as well be more constructive with your time. I saw someone who made a dress and put braids in her hair, thanks to YouTube University. Be creative and Glow Up! By the way, that’s the title of the second part of this series.

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Don’t forget to get involved in the discussion questions below:

Has the quarantine impacted your relationships in a positive or negative light?
What steps are you taking to help keep yourself sane during this time?

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