6 Self-Care Changes You Can Make Right Now Without Spending a Dime

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I want to extend a massive shoutout to my guest blogger for this post-Emma Grace Brown. You can check her out at her site https://emmagracebrown.com/.

Search for #selfcare on social media, and you’re going to see thousands of photos of people on lux vacations and indulging in pricey spa days. All of those images can make self-care feel out of your reach. The way you take care of yourself each day can do more for your mental health than any amount of money spent.

Thkeya Life Inspiration is filled with practical tips for living your best life, and to supplement those tips, we offer a few extra budget savvy suggestions to help you change your habits for the better.

Focus on Simple Stress-Relieving Improvements

Taking vacations and spending time at the spa are both incredibly effective ways to reduce tension in your life. But you can’t necessarily hit the spa or take a vacay every single day, or even once or twice a month. So it would be best if you had more practical approaches to managing stress. Techniques that you can incorporate into your routine without spending a small fortune.

Like Clearing Negative Energy Out of Your Home

Okay, so how can you release tension without putting a dent in your budget? Well, one way is to clean and declutter your home. It is that simple! You see, when you live with clutter, dust, and disorganization, you’re also living with residual stress and bad energy you may not notice outright. But if you and your family have been complaining and feeling agitated for no good reason, these bad energy sources could be the culprits. Clear them out to boost your mood.

Or Setting Up a Little Relaxation Space Just for You

Once your home is tidy and clean, you can add more self-care by dedicating a room or corner to pure relaxation. Think about what helps you unwind, and then center this soothing space around that activity. Maybe this means creating a simple meditation corner or a cozy reading nook where you can escape with your favorite books. Whatever makes you happy! As long as you keep these spaces simple, it would be best if you didn’t have to spend a ton of extra money.

You Should Set Boundaries to Reduce Stress

Boundaries are important! They are so crucial that you should establish clear boundaries in all areas of your life. It could mean letting coworkers know that your time is off-limits or telling family members that specific topics aren’t up for discussion. Set your boundaries, and then stick with them but don’t be afraid to reassess them after significant life changes. You may need to pull back on some limitations, or you may need new ones.

Speaking of Boundaries, You Should Also Learn to Say “No”

What’s the simplest way to create the boundaries you need? Saying “no” more often is going to be the most effective strategy. Just like setting boundaries, learning to say “no” to family, friends, coworkers, and supervisors can cause anxiety at first. But once you practice this essential self-care habit, you’ll feel like a new person! You’ll be protecting your energy and, in turn, learning to value your time and yourself. Understanding this can make such a difference.

But Don’t Forget About Basic Self-Care Your Body Needs

It would be best if you also had self-care to preserve your physical health. Self-care can be broken down into specific areas: physical, intellectual, professional, financial, etc. Take better care of each of these spokes in the wheels of your own life, and you are bound to improve your quality of life. And you don’t have to spend a cent.

Self-care is a non-negotiable if you want to live your best life. But don’t think self-care has to be expensive to be useful! The best self-care changes are the ones that don’t cost a thing. Those are the changes that will improve your everyday routines and help you relieve stress.

Living your best life should be a lifestyle change! If you think so too or want to learn more, get inspired by reading past blog posts from Thkeya Life Inspiration.

Dating Red Flags

Dating red flags to avoid in order to meet your King or Queen

Stating that dating is challenging is an understatement. I’m trying to stay positive in a world that seems bleak takes an intense amount of courage. One of the most significant issues I have with dating is the amount of lying that occurs. It’s incredibly sad how much people have to pretend or put up a facade in the dating world. It comes across very selfish and manipulative as this person is only interested in getting their needs met. Some people lie because if the truth came out, it wouldn’t produce the desired outcome. Honestly, find people who aren’t looking for anything serious if that’s your wish. Don’t make decisions for others. I swear that is my biggest pet peeve. Let me decide what I want for myself. I decided to compile a list of red flags that you may encounter while dating. Of course, this doesn’t include all of them, however, if you come across these run quickly in the other direction. The person you are dealing with is trouble with a capital T.

You call the person, but they respond back to you with a text

When this occurs, you are either dealing with a person who is married or has a live-in boyfriend/girlfriend. This behavior is very shady as you can’t reach the person on the phone, but they will text you to death. I know texting is how people communicate nowadays, but you should be able to engage in phone conversations. If you are unable to have a phone conversation, then you need to inquire why that is the case. If the situation doesn’t improve after multiple discussions, then it’s time to move on.

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It’s challenging to plan meetups

Once you are interested in someone, the natural thing is to schedule an outing. That is a telling sign if it’s becoming a chore to meet up with your potential mate.  There may be work or other family obligations that are possibly happening. However, be wary of how long it takes to meet up finally. You need to find someone who has time to devote to a relationship and not someone who treats it like an afterthought.

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Contacting you last minute for a date

I understand that everyone is busy but please have respect for people’s time. Don’t think it’s okay to ask for a date on the very same day. The other person may or may not be available. If you are taking the other person seriously, you will make yourself available to them. However, when on a constant basis you are being asked on a date last minute it’s time to move on. Most likely this person is seeing someone, and when things aren’t going well, they will turn to you for comfort. Be with someone who makes you a priority instead of an option.

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Afraid to discuss the future

When you are dating someone, and things are going well at some point, the conversation about becoming long term should come up. When you are hearing, let’s see how things go, and I’m not looking for anything serious please move on. A person who is serious about a relationship doesn’t have an issue with discussing the future. In fact, that person may bring it up before you do. If a relationship is your goal don’t waste time with someone who doesn’t feel the same.

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Ghosting You

During the dating phase, you start to spend a lot of time together as the connection for each other starts to grow. Then all of a sudden the unthinkable happens, and you stop hearing from the other person. Things in life come up so, in the beginning, you brush it off as no big deal. After a few days and then weeks it becomes clear that the other person has disappeared on you. The behavior is known as ghosting, and it happens more often than you realize. I believe this is the coward’s way out when the other person’s feelings change, and they would rather not discuss it. There is a possibility that the other person could’ve experienced a family emergency. However, this is the reason to send out a text to alert someone of what’s happening. The best way to get over this is to continue to live your life. If that person does hit you up without an explanation, please ignore them as they don’t deserve your presence.

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Moving too fast to become physical

Of course, you want to date someone that you find attractive. That is not only common sense, but that determines compatibility as well. Why would you want to spend forever with someone if a connection is lacking? With keeping that in mind there is a time and place for everything. When you are sincerely trying to date the last thing on your agenda is jumping into the bed with someone. If this is what you want, please make that known. Things shouldn’t be moving in the physical department while you are still getting to know each other.  Sometimes people get excited and move in that direction. If once you explain this and nothing changes, then you have your answer. Anyone who is rushing this has something to give, and it’s something you don’t want. A person of high quality will not force this as they understand that once they develop a deep connection, then the physical aspect will occur. There’s no need to move fast as it tends to cloud your judgment. Wait to see what type of person you’re dealing with as time reveals all things.

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After reading these red flags keep them in your mind as you date. I had my share of these signs, and it helped to get me away from some dangerous situations. Of course, these don’t all occur at the same time, so it’s important to keep these handy as a reference. I’m sure there are a lot more signs, but these are the ones that I experienced the most. What are some red flags that you encountered? How did you avoid dating red flags in the past? Please share your comments and your experiences below.

Until next time,

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Paralyzed

I write poetry as well, and I wanted to share with you a poem that I composed. Periodically I will share my poems on this blog while staying true to the relationship-centric view of my page. The poem that I am going to share today is entitled, “Paralyzed.” This poem is about domestic violence occurring within a relationship. I hope that this poem will resonate with someone and give them the courage to walk away from the situation before it’s too late. Also, please share this poem with anyone who may need to read its contents.

 

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