Happy 2020 and I hope things are going well so far. It’s been a busy few weeks for me since the year started. There were a few things I wanted to work on to improve my self-confidence. I’m going to start Invisalign in a few weeks. I’m having issues with my bite, and I’m obsessed with having straight teeth. Now that my wisdom teeth are gone, it’s time for the process of my year and half of treatment to begin. However, I’m excited to see the results and have confidence in my smile back. I feel self-conscious about the facial hair on my face. I always wondered if that was the first thing that people noticed about me. Maybe not, but I feel like people are judging me based on my face. Laser hair removal is very pricey; however, I’m hoping my insurance covers the cost. In my case, this isn’t cosmetic as my mom has the same issue (good old genetics). I’m currently waiting for the Dr. office to get back to me on what the insurance will cover. If not, I’ll have to pay out of pocket. It’s not ideal, but this is something I’ve wanted for a while. It’s going to happen either way, but hopefully, insurance will cover the cost.
Having acne is something I’ve dealt with for a large portion of my life. I want to clear up my face, and I believe my issues are hormonal. I’m currently working on changing my eating habits and drinking more water. However, I think there’s more to it in my situation. I went to a dermatologist a few weeks ago. I’m on a regimen where I have a cream at night and a gel in the morning. I use the products after I complete my regular skincare routine. I honestly see results so far. I go back in March to check my progress and see if my current prescription needs to change. So far, so good, so I’m praying everything continues to move forward positively. Due to my sensitive skin and eczema issues, it was essential to see a Dr. I struggled in the past with finding the right products to use. The products would irritate my skin or cause my eczema to flare up. Since my Dr. is aware of my issues, I’ve been prescribed products that didn’t cause the above concerns. Once my face is precise, I’ll do a before and after to show the results. Hopefully, it can inspire that clear skin is possible if you struggled with this your whole life. Going to the Dr. is okay, but you have to be disciplined and stick to your treatment plan if you want to see the desired results.
If there are things that you want to fix that you may feel is holding you back, then change it. With this new year, there’s no point in continuing to be unhappy. Take baby steps, but if the change has financial impacts, there is a possibility that all the changes can’t occur at once. Pace yourself and do things in a comfortable and achievable manner. Most items are challenging to do because we talk ourselves out of it. Mental toughness is a real issue that we don’t discuss often. If we allow too many outside influences, it can hurt our internal speech. Sometimes it’s best not say anything until it’s complete. Not everyone will be happy, and they could even talk you out of making the necessary changes. Stick to your guns and don’t let the doubt of others block your blessings. Your dreams/goals that you want to achieve is on the other side of your comfort zone. Go out there and live your life NOW! If something is bothering you, get it fixed ASAP. Improving your self-confidence is a fantastic feeling and anything that impacts that is an obstacle to remove.
How do you plan on making new strides in this new year? Are there things that you want to improve on or new goals for this year? In what ways will you implement these changes?
Before the start of
the New Year, I see the same old
rhetoric. I’m getting rid of the poisonous
people in my life before the New Year. I don’t want to go into the New Year
with the previous year’s drama. The thing I find most interesting is the need
to do this every year. Do you have that many toxic people in your life? Is it necessary to remove these people regularly? This predicament
got me to thinking about a few things. Are these people toxic or is the poisonous person you? Think about it for a few
minutes. How many times did people leave your life and the first response is
that person was toxic anyway. After a while,
you need to start looking at the person in the mirror. Maybe you are having so
many issues because you are the toxic
person you are trying to remove. Self-reflection
is a hard thing to do, and sometimes it’s
difficult to admit destructive behavior
within ourselves. Acknowledging that you
might be toxic is scary at first. However, the reward for fixing yourself is very fulfilling.
It can be hard to admit, but
each of us has toxic behavior. Even I
have to correct the harmful habits that I
have. There is nothing wrong with accepting
you have an issue. The problem is never altering
your behavior. I understand that looking inside
yourself could be a mortifying
experience, but you can’t think that
everyone around you is the toxic one. If you find that you are always losing
friends and people are habitually walking out your life then maybe you are the
problem. You are the company that you keep. If you have to get rid of people
often, it’s time to reevaluate your discernment for picking friends. You have chosen these folks to be in your life. Why
would you select toxic people in the
first place? Once you see that someone is displaying bad behavior, it is up to you to say something. Waiting
until the New Year to remove someone from your life is problematic. It took the
New Year for you to notice this behavior.
Why wasn’t this person gone months ago? We are responsible for the folks we
allow to stay in our lives. At some point we have to say to ourselves I wanted
this to happen.
Again, think about it for a few more minutes. You like
something about this person to keep them around. They are only as toxic to your
life as you allow them to be. Once the toxicity has lasted long, you have to look inward as secretly you like the chaos. That’s the only
explanation for all the drama to fester for so long. Once the spectacle
consumes you for an extended period, you become the very thing you dislike.
When this occurs, you now become a toxic friend who
then causes people to run away from you. It is so important to protect your
peace from outsiders. Once that is disturbed no matter how much you want that
person around you must remove them out your life. Your mental state isn’t worth
the headache. Before concluding I need to
get rid of toxic friends determine if you have become toxic. If so, work on that so you can be a better person for yourself and others. The energy you
are getting from other people could be what you are giving out inadvertently.
What is your experience with toxic friends? And how did you conclude to remove them from your life? Did you
realize that you were becoming toxic? Is so, how did you fix it?
What a ride 2018 was for me and I’m sure for many of you as well. As I look back on the past year, I made a lot of strides both personally and professionally. I started a new job which next month will make it a year within the role. My blog is turning one year old next week. I traveled to four different places. I met new and old friends along my journey throughout the year. I further my love for horror by attending three horror conventions. As humans, we tend to focus on the negative and completely negate the positives that have occurred. One thing, in particular, is how much I’ve grown throughout the year. I first started this blog as a way for me to help others by sharing similar situations and feelings. Little did I know that the person who would benefit the most would be me. I learned so much about myself through this journey of being a blogger for a year. I learned that to be successful; I would have to open myself up to how and why I’m at this point in my life. There were things that I allowed to hold me back from accomplishing my goals. I had to go through a self-discovery where I had to look myself in the mirror and be honest. I had things about myself that I didn’t like and I needed to correct. I’m still a work in progress, but the most important part is that I’m working on making the necessary changes.
Instead of waiting for the “New Year.” I started to implement those changes before the start of 2019. It was the best decision I ever made. It’s not
perfect by any means, and unfortunately, I do fall short here and there. The
critical piece to remember is to continue to try your best at whatever you are
doing. Obstacles will come your way but keep it moving as not to derail your
purpose. Keep your eye on the prize and never forget the reason why you are
going for the gold. The difference between the person who goes after their
goals and the person who doesn’t is all about willpower. Mental willpower to be
exact. Mentally you will have to push through as there will be times when you will
want to give up. There will be times when you are tired, unmotivated,
uninspired, and don’t want to do it. Those are the times when your mental
willpower will have to kick into overdrive. We are human, and of course, you may
want a break. However, taking a break can turn into a few days, weeks, months,
and then years. You don’t want time to pass by, and you are still waiting for “next
year” to achieve your goals.
The power of the mind is mighty
as well as the power of the tongue. Think it and then speak it into existence.
You manifest what you get in life. It sounds insane to say that your mind is
powerful, but it’s a very true statement. If you think and speak negatively,
that will consume your life, and that’s all that you will become. Change your
mindset towards a more favorable outcome, and you will yield different results.
Manifest what you precisely want and watch it blossom. Nothing good will come
unless you believe it first. Cheers to 2019 and to all the wonderful blessings