I recently found myself at a crossroads this week when it comes to second chances. What does it mean and how do you decide when it should be given? There are people who hurt you in the past and may believe that they have changed. However, in order for you to truly give a second chance then changes must be made. That other person has a responsibility to show you that they have truly seen the error of their ways and that improvements have occurred. Only then can a true second chance be given to that person.
You’re most likely saying to yourself all of that is great, but how do you know if a true change has really occurred? My answer to you would be that I can’t answer that question for you. This will be something that you will receive a gut instinct about. Trust your intuition and if you get a feeling that something is not right please listen to that. Only you will know ultimately what is best for you and that includes who you allow in your life. If the vibe is off that is your intuition telling you that this person is not genuine and to remove them completely out of your life.
I understand that this is a difficult thing to do as we have been programmed to be nice to everyone we come in contact with. I’m not trying to tell you to change that however, we all need to become more cautious of the people we have around us. Not everyone who comes into your life means you well. That person could have plans for you and not of the variety that you may prefer. Also, just because someone is a nice person doesn’t mean that person can’t hurt you. A hurt person will always hurt people around them. That saying is so true and it doesn’t matter if you are nice or not. Keep the people who are meant to be in your life and get rid of the ones who shouldn’t be there.
Be wary of giving out second chances to people. There are some people who deserve it and there are others who don’t. Be protective of your heart and don’t allow a pretty face/smile to make you forget all the hurt and pain that was caused. A person should discuss what they corrected/accomplished and not just what needs to change. That person is only telling you what he/she wants you to hear and will continue to pull at your heartstrings if you let them. Your heart, soul, and energy deserve the very best. Therefore, please don’t be as generous with your time as some people just want to deplete you of all your energy. Remeber just because you forgive someone doesn’t mean they are meant to be in your life.
Thkeya's Reflections on Life 